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Through education, discussion, and self reflection, Three Rivers Engaging Change provides opportunities for individuals to end their violence and control and begin to build intimate relationships based on respect, trust, and freedom.
WHO SHOULD ENROLL? Three Rivers Engaging Change groups for men are designed for men who have used physical, psychological, or sexual abuse to control their partners. Abuse includes pushing, hitting, strangling, threatening, name-calling, being extremely jealous, preventing your partner from seeing friends or family, or forcing their partner to perform sexual acts against their will. WHY NOT ANGER MANAGEMENT? Anger management does not address the complexities of intimate relationships or the root causes of violence, including beliefs and attitudes about women, and the dynamics of control underlying the abuse. HOW DO I SIGN UP?
To request an intake packet please leave a message at 701-899-9834 between the hours of 9:00 am & 4:30 pm, Monday through Friday. You may also email [email protected]. If you’ve been court-ordered to attend Three Rivers Engaging Change, we’ll cooperate with the prosecutor’s office and courts to ensure accountability. WHAT’S THE COST? Each group session is $30, with the full program totaling $830. A sliding fee scale is available. PROGRAM STANDARDS AND MODEL
The Three Rivers Engaging Change Program meets the North Dakota Batterers’ Intervention Standards and is member program of the North Dakota Alliance to End Partner Abuse (https://nddsvc.org/projects/north-dakota-alliance-to-end-partner-abuse). We use the Creating a Process of Change for Men Who Batter curriculum, a nationally-acclaimed model developed by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project in Duluth, Minnesota. |
HOW DOES THE PROGRAM WORK?
Intake Assessment Three Rivers Engaging Change staff will meet with you to determine if our group is appropriate for you. If you’ve been court-ordered to attend, we will determine if there are any other parts of your sentence that would be helpful to complete before you start group. (CD assessment, community service, incarceration) Orientation If you are accepted into our Three Rivers Engaging Change Program, we’ll provide a session to orient you to the group process. Groups Our program consists of 27 group sessions for 1.5 hours each that cover the following: 1. Educate on abuse. We introduce a theme of power and control, which includes: · Coercion, threats, and intimidation · Emotional abuse, minimizing, and blaming · Physical and sexual violence · Economic abuse—giving her an allowance or taking her money · Isolation—controlling who she sees · Using the children—making her feel guilty or threatening to take away the children 2. Self reflection. We look at how your behavior may have impacted your partner and any children in the home, and we discuss how you could respond to your partner in a healthy way that includes: · Respect, support, trust, and partnership · Accountability and honesty · Negotiation and fairness 3. Skill building. We offer non-controlling methods to practice and apply, such as: · Positive self talk · Compromise · Effective use of time outs Exit Interview After the 27 weeks of group, we conclude with an exit interview to assess what you’ve learned and to obtain your feedback. |